Areas of Focus
Adult adoptees and former foster children
Self Judgment/Lack of self compassion
Grief and Loss
Gay and Lesbian Families
Who I Work With
"The irony is that we attempt to disown our difficult stories, to appear more whole or more acceptable, but our wholeness - even our wholeheartedness - actually depends on the integration of all of our experiences, including the falls." Brene Brown
The natural result of awareness is change. Once we become aware of ineffective behavioral patterns we can then begin to trust ourselves in our ability to make needed changes.
Our thoughts and emotions are coming from parts of ourselves that have yet to be discovered, heard, loved and returned home. As a somatic therapist I believe in our body- mind’s divine inherent energetic force toward healing and well being. I am a holistic minded therapist that values the healing power of the mind, body and spirit. By learning about your own unique resources, gifts and strengths you can use them to transform challenging and difficult situations. Knowing what roots you, knowing your passions and recovering your true self allows for new levels of clarity, connection and compassion in your life.
“Treat people as if they are what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
When we think or talk about adolescence perhaps we think of kids who are rude and impulsive. This can be a precarious time to say the least. Drawing upon Dan Seigel’s work on the teenage brain I bring a host of understanding to what is going on physiologically with teens. I combine this science with my own open hearted compassion while walking with and guiding these amazing young people on this part of their life’s journey. I view this time in life as full of potential, creativity, innovation and social excitement. I have a deep respect for their individual process of coming to be.
The metaphor of The Elephant and the Rider helps understand the developing adolescent brain.
The rider represents the brain’s prefrontal cortex where executive functioning takes place. This part of the brain is under going major construction in teens and young adults and is not fully developed. Executive functioning includes the ability to pay attention, organize and plan, initiate tasks and stay focused, regulate emotions and be a self starter.
The elephant represents the limbic or simply put, the emotional and social part of the brain. The cortex is responsible for reasoning with the limbic brain but imagine a small and underdeveloped cortex (the rider) trying to steer the 600 pound impulsive and emotionally sensitive elephant. As a parent of a teen one might be familiar with how fast and furiously that part can take over.
In adults the prefrontal cortex is fully formed and we are, for the most part, physiologically capable of seeing the whole big picture: to understand our actions and their conceivable consequences, to manage our emotions appropriately and plan and organize big projects with many moving and changing parts.
This difference is often at the foundation of problems between teens and parent expectations.
When the whole family system transforms each individual blossoms as well.
Family relationships have one of the most fundamental influences on how we identify and perceive ourselves in the world. How we interact with members of our family of origin sets the stage for how we will be in relationship with others throughout our lives.
Every family has maladaptive patterns that creep up from time to time. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to take the steps that lead to ease and flow?
I can provide a safe and respectful container where each unique individual gets to voice his/her/their thoughts and beliefs. Hearing each other in this type of setting can magically allow one family member to hear another as if for the first time. With therapeutic support we can co-create a new way of interacting that can be birthed into healthy authentic communication and result in the intimacy that most families long for.